Here is the startling truth: you are a soul with natural-born intuitive abilities that enable you to remain connected to those who have passed.

This qualifies you to be the best medium for your loved ones on the other side. The undying love you share creates a permanent connection across the veil---a special bond that even a seasoned medium cannot match.

☪️ The Foundation of Your Connection: Understanding the How and Why

The Unbreakable Bond of Love

Love is more than an emotion; it is the power that creates the cosmos,  the divine energy that bridges the physical and spiritual worlds.  The deep connection you share with your loved one is born from your “soul love.” This is not about romance, although that can certainly be part of it. It's an unconditional connection to the divine, to ourselves, and to others that embraces and accepts them exactly as they are.  Unconditional love keeps you bonded to each other even after their physical passing, for love endures all things, even the illusion of death.

For in truth, only the body dies, while our spirits return to the other side--our true, forever home.  Since our consciousness lives forever, this means interaction is not only possible but can heal and transform us.

When you actively nurture this soul love, you raise your vibration.  This makes it easier to connect with the high-frequency energy of spirits,  especially your beloved family and friends. They are drawn to you by their lasting affection for you, which explains why they'd prefer to connect directly with you rather than through a medium. 

It's Healthy to Stay Connected: The Continuing Bonds Theory

Grief has long been viewed as a necessary process of letting go so the living could move on. However, there's now an awareness that supports what many of us feel intuitively---maintaining a relationship with those who have passed is healthy and natural.  Not just occasional contact but daily interactions that are tangible.  It's important to note that 64% of the global population (5 billion people) believes in some form of life after death, and in the U.S., half of the population has reported some form of contact after a loved one's passing.

The theory,  known as 'Continuing Bonds',  confirms the importance of creating new memories and even daily interactions with our loved ones.  This isn't just about managing grief, but about actively transforming a loving relationship into a new, ongoing spiritual form that fosters mutual spiritual growth.  In this way,  our loved ones continue to learn and grow alongside us, living between two worlds.

The benefits of nurturing these bonds are immense:

• It provides deep comfort and reassurance.
• It replaces our fear of death with the certainty of eternal life and continued loving relationships. 
• It can significantly reduce feelings of anxiety.
• It helps us find deeper meaning and purpose in life.
• It fosters personal growth and spiritual self-discovery.
• It encourages us to become who we truly are,  free of limiting beliefs, as we turn our grief into joy.

With this comforting understanding anchored in your heart, let us explore the ways you are already equipped to receive their loving messages and contact.

☪️ Discovering Your Natural Intuitive Senses

You were born with psychic and intuitive abilities. Yes, you are a natural-born psychic and a medium for those you love---you've merely forgotten. These abilities are not supernatural powers but heightened versions of your natural senses,  born of your soul.  We call them the "Clair Senses," and they are the primary channels through which we receive intuitive information from the spirit world. 

Understanding your unique intuitive strengths gives you a personalized map for spirit communication. The summary table below outlines the eight primary clair senses ('Clair' means clear).  

CLAIRSENSES SUMMARY:

Clairvoyance (Clear Seeing)---Perceiving images, symbols, colors, or visual impressions in your mind's eye: what you see is not fantasy but exists in some dimension. 

Clairaudience (Clear Hearing)---Hearing internal or external words, whispers, names, sounds, or music.

Clairsentience (Clear Feeling)---Feeling energy such as tingles, chills, temperature changes or gut feelings in your body.  

Claircognizance (Clear Knowing)---Instantly knowing something without logic; the information simply 'lands' in your mind. 

Clairempathy (Clear Emotional Feeling)---Feeling emotions from a loved one in spirit as if they're your own. 

Clairalience (Clear Smelling)---Smelling perfume, smoke, flowers, or other scents with no physical source.  

Clairgustance (Clear Tasting)---Tasting something associated with your loved one without eating anything. 

Clairtangency (Clear Touching)---Receiving information by touching an object connected to someone (psychometry). 

Think about which of these senses feels most natural to you. 

Have you ever known something without knowing how you knew it? Or smelled a familiar scent without there being a source for it? Perhaps you've had an image or symbol suddenly flash in your mind and wondered what it meant.  

All of the above, and more can be spirit communication. 

This is a journey of self-discovery, and recognizing your natural abilities is the first step to developing your connection.

☪️ Simple Ways to Begin the Conversation

Starting a conversation with your loved one in spirit is a simple practice that anyone can begin.  The following techniques will help you set a clear intention while remaining open to receiving,  which will allow communication to flow easily and naturally.  This is not a complicated process since you are a spirit being just as they are.  Trust the process and allow it to unfold.  If you choose to believe spirit communication is easy,  it will be.  Your experience will be confirmation of what you truly believe, consciously or unconsciously.  

• Just Ask — Then set a clear intention to connect. Ask your loved one to draw close and communicate with you. You can ask for signs, dreams, or simply for them to make their presence felt. The key is to ask without trying to control how or when it happens.  Having no fixed expectations gives them the freedom to connect in the way that is easiest for them, which is important in the beginning.

• Talk to Them — Speaking to your loved ones, either aloud or in your mind, is a powerful way to open the energetic pathways between worlds. Understand that speaking aloud gives more energy to your connection. Talking to them as if they are right there with you creates a strong energetic invitation, and the more you make this a habit, the more easily the energy will flow.  

• Channeling Through Writing — Journaling or writing letters is a comforting way to share your thoughts, feelings, and questions. This fosters a dialogue; when you ask a question, you prompt a response. With consistent practice, this can even evolve into automatic writing, where messages from spirit seem to flow directly through your pen. 

• Quiet Time and Meditation--- Find a quiet, distraction-free space where you can relax and become receptive. Simple guided meditations can help quiet your mind and open your heart. Use the power of your imagination to create a peaceful meeting place—this is not fantasy, but a way to build an energetic bridge where your loved one can join you.  

• Create a Special Space ---Designate a small area in your home for connection. Use meaningful items like photos of your loved ones, candles, incense, or plants to help set a clear energetic intention. This space then becomes a physical reminder of your heart's desire for communion.  

 Trust,  patience,  and an open mind will take you far! 

Unlike physical human communication, spirit communication, at least in the beginning, is often subtle. Unless you were raised to believe in the spirit world, it will take time to overcome your programming and trust your experiences.  Be patient and persist in your efforts.

In time, you'll trust your intuition and inner knowing over the beliefs and opinions of others.  Your soul knows what's true for you, so hold tight to that truth.

Now that you've initiated the conversation,  let's explore how to recognize the different ways your loved one might reach out to you.  They might try different methods to connect,  so take note of any unusual occurrences.  

☪️ Recognizing Messages: A Language of Love

Messages from spirit forms a unique, personal language built on shared memories, inside jokes,  signs, and symbols that are meaningful only to you.  A symbol that is meaningful to one person, like a dragonfly,  may be irrelevant to another.  Trust what feels true and right to your heart, over your intellect.  If you get a feeling the message,  sign, or contact is from your loved one, it probably is.  Why?  Because they know you are doing all that you can to connect with them! 

Some of the common ways our loved ones may reach out:

🪷 Emotional and Sensory Experiences----Feeling positive emotions like love, passion, and joy.  Smells (perfume, tobacco, a favorite food) with no physical source.  Temperature changes (heat, coolness). Physical sensations (tingles, chills, goosebumps, light touches).  

🪷Things You Hear---- Hearing whispers, your name being called, or internal telepathic messages.  A favorite song playing at a significant moment on the radio.

🪷Things You See---Orbs or balls of light, often in photos or out of the corner of your eye.  Shimmering or sparkling lights in the air.   Brief,  but clear "spirit visits," where they may appear looking healthy and vibrant.

🪷Electrical Activity---Lights flickering inexplicably.  Appliances like TVs or radios turning on or off by themselves.

🪷Symbolic Signs---Finding objects like feathers or coins in meaningful places. Seeing repeating numbers (e.g., 1111) or number combinations related to special dates. The repeated appearance of specific animals,  like butterflies,  birds,  or dragonflies.

🪷Vivid Dreams---Experiencing "visitation dreams" that feel incredibly real,  memorable,  and reassuring,  leaving you with a sense of peace upon waking.

🪷Reactions from Children & Pets---Children and pets have fewer limiting beliefs and are highly sensitive to spirit energy.  They might look at or react to a space where no one seems to be.

These signs are not random occurrences, but part of ongoing contact and communication with the spirit world.  And since love is the most meaningful 'message' of them all,  projecting love to us is often the first way they make contact after they pass.  Trust your feelings! 

☪️ Navigating Your Journey with Peace and Confidence

Overcoming Fear and Doubt

Stepping into spirit communication can naturally bring up feelings of fear, doubt, and skepticism. While these feelings are completely understandable, they can block your connection. Fear doesn't just make communication difficult—it stops it cold and can even manifest as negative,  fearful experiences. You have the power to shape your experiences by consciously choosing love over fear.  Trust what feels good to you, ignore what doesn't.  

It is crucial to remember that your loved ones are motivated by love. They want to bring you comfort, healing, and reassurance. Their intention is to empower you, not frighten you.  

Learning to Trust: The Art of Discernment

Discernment is the skill of learning to recognize the unique signature of your loved one's energy and love.  It helps you distinguish between a genuine message and your own thoughts,  hopes,  or fears born of limiting beliefs, leading you to trust your experiences.

Remember, you are naturally sensitive to those you love.  Trust your clairsenses and the instant 'knowing' that happens when your loved one is near.   Let go of doubt when something unusual occurs because your loved one might be practicing different ways to connect with you.  When you let them know you felt, heard, or saw them, this helps them improve their efforts. 

Now, use the following questions as a practical checklist to help you discern the messages you receive.

• Does it sound like them?--- Does the message align with their personality? Keep in mind, they may sound more loving and supportive than they did in life,  since their negative ego no longer influences them. They are a higher version of themselves.
• Does it lift you up? --- Does the message empower you and encourage your growth? Or does it create dependence, fear, or guilt? Loving communication is always empowering or neutral,  never negative.
• Is it personal? --- Does the message contain specific details, memories, or validations that only your loved one would know?
• Is it clear and for the highest good? --- Does the message promote love,  compassion, and healing for you and everyone involved?

Let your intuition be your guide. Messages that drop into your mind without any effort on your part can be from your loved one or a guide.  In fact, this is one of the primary ways the other side communicates with us.  

Trust the feeling that comes with the message or sign—a sense of peace, warmth, and rightness can be the clearest confirmation you can receive. 

☪️ A Lifelong Journey of Love and Transformation

The journey of direct spirit communication is a profound exploration of our own innate intuitive abilities and the enduring power of love to transform and heal us.  It is an extraordinary path of self-discovery that deepens our understanding of life,  death,  and the loving bonds that connect us eternally across space and time.

Most incredibly,  this is a reciprocal process. Your loved ones in spirit long for connection just as much as you do. When you open your heart to them, it becomes a two-way path of healing. You are not just finding peace for yourself; you are helping them heal and grow, as well---for both of you never stop learning and growing. 

Grieving is not about "getting over" a loss; it's about discovering that your relationship has returned to its original, spiritual form as it continues to evolve.  Your loved one has maintained their basic personality while at the same time becoming a higher version of themselves. And now so must you if you want to experience them in the fullest way possible. What may have begun as heartbreak can lead to a life filled with more love, joy, and fulfillment than you ever dreamed possible 

For death is not an end but a new beginning. 

About Pam Johnson

In addition to being a gifted intuitive channeler, since her husband's passing in 2020, Pam is the premier spiritual teacher in the ground-breaking field of spiritual development for continuing relationships after death.  

As proof of how controversial this topic is, even psychic mediums are conflicted.  Strangely, many reject the idea of ongoing contact entirely,  likely because they were taught that “life is for the living" and we must let the "dead" go. Yet that hasn't stopped about 83% of the U.S. population from believing in life after death, with many people reporting some form of contact after a loved one's passing.  In addition, half of the world's population — 4 billion people — believe in life after death. 

Pam’s experiences with Alan prove that continuing a relationship is possible.  While there will be challenges to overcome, you can do the same!  Start with this handbook, and if you want to go further with your relationship across the veil,  here are some next steps:

💟 Be Your Own Medium Mentorship— the hub for Pam's coaching program and community where she posts daily.

💟 Be Your Own Medium Pam's YouTube Channel---with 200 plus videos, including workshop playlists 

💟 Be Your Own Medium Substack Newsletter for more insights, wisdom, and learning 

💟 Supernatural Love, A True Story of Life and Love After Death -- Pam and Alan's book about their journey to reunite has helped countless people understand their own unique otherworldly experiences.  This magical book opens a door to the spirit world for you.