There are moments in life when something happens. We make up a story about the why and the what. We start to live as if our story were true. Because we believe they’re keeping us safe. The truth is, these stories are stopping us from getting the big results we are looking for.
"Many limiting beliefs are created in our childhood. Devastatingly, they become part of our identity
Limiting beliefs are firmly held convictions that constrain us is some way. By believing them, we end up diminishing our confidence and impoverishing our lives. ... They can damage our belief in your own ability to make the necessary changes in life that will lead us to happiness and fulfilment in our careers. We have all heard the expression below:
“Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right.”
Henry Ford
This definition of confidence comes from the Psychology Dictionary Online:
“Our self-assurance in trusting our abilities, capacities, and judgments; the belief that we can meet the demands of a task.”
With an open mind read this workbook and explore the questions and see what beliefs you want to continue to believe as a result.
All the very best Kaidi
THE ELEPHANT STORY
When baby elephants are young, they are tied to a rope that is strong enough to keep them in one place. The animals learn that when they try to break free, they fail because the rope restrains them. Consequently, their mind is then trained
that the rope will hold them, no matter what.
Obviously when the elephant grows up, he can break free, he has the ability to breakthrough the rope anytime he wants. There are no chains, no cages. The opportunity is there, all it takes is a choice from the elephant.
Imagine this scenario. You see the grown up elephant tied up, and you ask his elephant trainer nearby why does the elephant just stands there and makes no attempt to get away. “Well,” the trainer said, “when he was very young and much smaller we used the same size rope to tie him and, at that age, it’s strong enough to hold him. As he grows up, he’s conditioned to believe he cannot break away. He believes the rope can still hold him, so he simply never tries to break free.”
Like elephants, most of us go through life hanging onto a belief system that limits our potential. Instead of a rope, we have our educational system, our friends, sometime our parents, and people around us who help us form our beliefs. Like the elephant, we form beliefs, on which we base our life choices. These beliefs then form invisible ropes which hold us and restrict us as we get older. We believe them when they are no longer true like the elephants do.
The great news is that we all have the ability to break free. The belief (invisible rope) holding us back does a good job until we decide to discard it, choosing to believe a new truth instead.
That new job, that risk, that leap of faith, that call, that blog, that date, that book, that health change, that MBA program, that half marathon, whatever it is for you, is just sitting there… waiting for the rope to break. Here we help you explore what beliefs are holding you back
Ask yourself these questions or work with your coach or a colleague or a friend
Follow the questions in order
1) What is a problem or limitation that has held you back for a while?
2) What is it you would like to do/have, except something is stopping you from getting it/doing it?
3) What is it that is REALLY stopping you from getting what you want?
4) This is a problem because?
5) And this means? (Repeat as many times as necessary) And this means? (Repeat as many times as necessary)
6) What must you believe that makes this problem even exist?
7) What is it you believe about YOURSELF that has made this a problem?
8) What do you believe about the WORLD that has made this a problem?
9) What is this problem an example of?
10)...and what is THIS an example of?
11) When did you decide that your problem was a problem (roughly)?
12) At what point in your life did you by into this concept?
13) What decision did you make that caused this problem to be born?
14) What does this problem mean to you?
15) What will life be like when you don't have this belief?
I hope this helps you identify the beliefs holding you back, so that you can make a choice to still believe it or not
When we let our past pain, struggles, and challenges define who we are in our current reality we are letting beliefs that are no longer true get in our own way.
The only thing from your past that’s in your present now is your beliefs, the choice is yours if you allow them to limit your future.
You’re not your past actions.
You’re not how others treated you in the past.
You’re only who you think you are, and what you do right now in this moment.
You can change your beliefs about what’s possible, and step away from your past beliefs
You can do it
All you have to do is believe, and then take action.
You’ve already heard it from me, who heard it from Kain Ramsey first, now I want you to tell yourself that you can succeed and live a life of choice - you can decide what you believe is true now.
You don’t have to have all the answers or wait for the perfect moment - you just have to get started.
There will never be a perfect time to start.
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